tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post195070644795952829..comments2024-02-22T03:17:33.594-05:00Comments on The White Hindu: The Most Important ThingAmbaahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17928793933638999583noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-30564865825662135632011-03-13T18:12:21.873-04:002011-03-13T18:12:21.873-04:00My family would like for me to marry an Indian man...My family would like for me to marry an Indian man, I think. I believe they see it as the same solution that you do, to give me legitimacy.<br /><br />However, I am a Hindu whether I'm married to an Indian or not.<br /><br />I don't need to prove myself that way.<br /><br />In general, I think it's not a bad idea/plan, but there are issues that make it much more complicated than that.<br /><br />I don't know who (if anyone) I will end up marrying. It's a large issue in my life right now with many difficult factors. I could find an Indian Hindu man, but it is not that simple for me.Ambaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17928793933638999583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-17418366678274373052011-03-13T15:43:04.445-04:002011-03-13T15:43:04.445-04:00If you marry a non-Hindu man you will give up much...If you marry a non-Hindu man you will give up much that you could have. I encourage you not to follow the advice of people leading you down that path. Having been in software engineering a long time I've known many Indian Hindu men with white wives. You can get a good Hindu man. No problem. btw - what does your mother think about the possibility of you marrying into a Hindu family?Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08570656952378725907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-26810943534894819002011-01-13T09:12:36.902-05:002011-01-13T09:12:36.902-05:00Oh goodness, now I feel a bit obligated! :D Somet...Oh goodness, now I feel a bit obligated! :D Sometimes I feel like I would be so useful to so many different kinds of men that I need to pull a Draupadi and marry several! (Joking)Ambaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17928793933638999583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-6376466902780978952011-01-12T01:12:36.371-05:002011-01-12T01:12:36.371-05:00I really hope you marry a hindu guy though, 61% of...I really hope you marry a hindu guy though, 61% of American hindus are men. A lot of people are going to be unmarried as a result.<br /><br />http://religions.pewforum.org/portraits > Demographics > HindusAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-6522880497002742222010-12-30T00:08:13.607-05:002010-12-30T00:08:13.607-05:00I am Hindu and I would advise you not to use your ...I am Hindu and I would advise you not to use your belief in reincarnation as a means of deferring gratification. Seize the opportunity now. You don't have to marry a Hindu. It's only important if you find someone who respects your personal religious beliefs. Have you ever tried shaadi.com?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-21815881944362731672010-12-20T11:20:07.261-05:002010-12-20T11:20:07.261-05:00The key is to keep my options open as long as poss...The key is to keep my options open as long as possible, really get to know people and not get tied down to a particular person too soon. I really do feel very hopeful and liberated, free to just see what comes and not worry about it!<br /><br />Thanks for the book recommendation, Manny, it sounds very interesting.Ambaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17928793933638999583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-15215029208115737332010-12-20T05:59:37.468-05:002010-12-20T05:59:37.468-05:00Love will find you when your least expecting it. x...Love will find you when your least expecting it. xShwetikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01961447402918561704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-76728667043862963382010-12-18T23:54:55.229-05:002010-12-18T23:54:55.229-05:00Hi Aamba,
I found an interesting book that may in...Hi Aamba,<br /><br />I found an interesting book that may interest you<br /><br /><br />American Veda: From Emerson and the Beatles to Yoga and Meditation How Indian Spirituality Changed the West <br /><br />By Philip Goldberg<br /><br />http://www.amazon.com/American-Veda-Emerson-Meditation-Spirituality/dp/0385521340/ref=cm_cr_pr_pb_tMannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-23951947354237153562010-12-18T10:55:24.392-05:002010-12-18T10:55:24.392-05:00It's true, finding a Hindu is very difficult c...It's true, finding a Hindu is very difficult cause of the small pool size.<br /><br />However, there are many white guys out there who are not particularly evangelical or married to his Catholic church or a far left atheistic bigot.<br /><br />I concur with Surya. You may be better off with a non Hindu who would not try to obstruct your faith than a Hindu man who is not compatible. <br /><br />So keep all your options open. And you too should try not to fanatically impose your Hindu faith on him. Remember another blog of yours about how newbie converts take their faith more seriously than the ones who are born into it? LOL :)Mannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-79361028365437871532010-12-18T01:09:54.246-05:002010-12-18T01:09:54.246-05:00Everything has already been very nicely said by ot...Everything has already been very nicely said by others Amba ,I couldn't add anything more except,Good Luck and Best wishes for Everything. <br />"For everything there is a Season and a Reason." Not sure if it is a quote I read somewhere,or if it just popped out of my head. See ,how many uncertainties we live with.It is really liberating if we know at least where/who we are. I felt that way ,too. Nice to know I am not alone.Sitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15874827165185726459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-28902681055973790402010-12-17T20:37:58.831-05:002010-12-17T20:37:58.831-05:00Everything that has to happen will happen just whe...Everything that has to happen will happen just when it has to happen, not too soon not too late. <br /><br />-AnonymousAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-43689538294123897752010-12-17T17:10:07.678-05:002010-12-17T17:10:07.678-05:00I liked this post of yours. Everything happens at ...I liked this post of yours. Everything happens at the proper time, as far as the creation of circumstances is concerned. But when opportunities do come, you have to make the right decision at the right time. Good Luck.SMnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-20673414410964487592010-12-17T11:17:43.309-05:002010-12-17T11:17:43.309-05:00That is possible, Surya, you are right. I'll ...That is possible, Surya, you are right. I'll just have to wait and see how it plays out and whom I meet. I just know that religion is a very important thing in my life and I need to be careful to address inter-religious issues in a relationship realistically!Ambaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17928793933638999583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-71409520170103531982010-12-17T10:44:13.595-05:002010-12-17T10:44:13.595-05:00I agree with Laura, there is room for accommodatin...I agree with Laura, there is room for accommodating a congenial white christian man so long as he doesnt oppose your way of praying. Kids are fine to grow up in mixed faith setting. The key is mutual respect and sensitivities to other persons beliefs. In your situation Amba, this is a more practical approach. Being a born brown hindu living in US, I can say, the odds are against your finding a hindu out there. An understanding white christian, say a broad minded man, is far better than a less compatible hindu, a hindu just in name.A good hindu wife besides is someone who will be a gods gift to any man, far husband and kids are put ahead of self by hindu women. Why would a christian man give up such a wonderful companion religion or not.-surya.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-21580204917252347942010-12-16T16:29:13.730-05:002010-12-16T16:29:13.730-05:00Thanks, guys! It is a really new and different mi...Thanks, guys! It is a really new and different mind-set for me, and yet it feels so right and so natural!Ambaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17928793933638999583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-67999909656449423222010-12-16T16:19:53.605-05:002010-12-16T16:19:53.605-05:00I agree with Kat, and this is something I am learn...I agree with Kat, and this is something I am learning myself :)KODANDAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18155694978884867021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-8178368086399510922010-12-16T16:18:18.702-05:002010-12-16T16:18:18.702-05:00I'm so glad to hear that you have realized wha...I'm so glad to hear that you have realized what is and isn't important in this life. I think something a lot of us don't do before we get married is love ourselves. You can't really love someone else to you completely love yourself. And loving yourself and what makes you you is something you have been accomplishing. I definitely agree with the above that when you are least likely to look is when you are more likely to find. If that person is out there it he will come right when you need him and he'll be exactly what you need. <br /><br />You go girl!<br /><br />KatKathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16389606589939967577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-32314386928166905312010-12-16T13:55:28.472-05:002010-12-16T13:55:28.472-05:00I think the most frustrating part about finding so...I think the most frustrating part about finding someone is that you never do find them while you're actively looking. Mostly it happens when you've given up and are content with being by yourself. I don't know if it has something to do with being confident and independent, or something else, but it sort of just happens.<br /><br />When I first became interested in India, I went through a personally regrettable period where I wondered what life would be like if I hadn't found someone until now, if learning about India would have been easier if I'd been able to date/marry and Indian man (I know, not the best thought to be having about my actual life partner), and then I realized that it was all silly, and that my husband is the best for me, because he supports all my crazy obsessions and doesn't judge me. He became an Episcopalian when we got married, and now he goes with me when I visit temples. I think there's something to be said for sticking to your guns and finding someone who accepts you for the person you are.<br /><br />Ultimately, if you're comfortable with yourself by yourself, then life is okay, with or without that other person. Kudos to you for getting to that point! It's a hard thing to do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3960293404576749034.post-40081340902350566792010-12-16T13:40:59.057-05:002010-12-16T13:40:59.057-05:00You know something, that is a wonderful thing to r...You know something, that is a wonderful thing to realize. If you find someone who loves you and fully supports your religious calling, that is a beautiful thing. A husband can be a great partner in life, but your soul is eternal and it's all your own. One's own soul really should be everyone's first priority, no matter what they believe.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13503656614341534175noreply@blogger.com